change your life

Want to immediately change your life? Fix the basics.

In Ray Dalio’s book Principles, he covers a lot about his personal life, goal setting, and decision making.

The second part of the book covers his Work Principles.

But there are a few lines in the first part of the book that can change your life.

Having the basics — a good bed to sleep in, good relationships, good food, and good sex — is most important, and those things don’t get better when you have a lot of money or much worse when you have less. And the people one meets at the top aren’t necessarily more special than those one meets at the bottom or in between. — Ray Dalio, Principles p.123

What this means for you!

For a billionaire like Dalio, he would have experienced life at every stage. His wealth could afford him the best of the best.

Despite his wealth, he readily admits at some point, there’s nothing he can do to make some parts of his life better than it already is.

  • Your food can’t get any more organic
  • There will be a cap on how comfortable your sleep can really be
  • Regardless of wealth, your relationships are either enriching or not.

So in essence, someone living just about minimum wage can have an excellent quality of life.

Whereas there could be a miserable millionaire who has horrible relationships, poor food habits, and having poor (or no) sex.

These few lines are a great jumping off point for your own life. Upgrading the basics could improve your joy, reduce anxiety, and positively impact your health and wellness.

Improve Your Sleep

In the largest sleep study ever completed, scientists of the University of Western Ontario concluded 7–8 hours of sleep improves decision making and quality of life compared to those with significantly more or less. So a great starting point could be to get optimum sleep.

If time is not an issue, assess sleep quality. This may include tracking your REM (rapid eye movement) length and quality.

Simple changes like shutting off phones and televisions long before bedtime could help, as well as reducing caffeine, alcohol and managing exercise.

Finally, getting the best mattress you can afford which provides the best comfort and temperature.

The goal is to become significantly better than you were before and to do it consistently. High quality sleep is the basis of all other things you should look to improve.

A good night’s sleep can change your life!

Improve Your Relationships

“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows.” — Ben Stein

The quality of your life can be changed by getting serious with your relationships.

The time you spend with others is valuable, so you should be getting a return on your investment, especially since you would be required to put in the work to keep them healthy.

Start with your immediate circle.

  • Can you confide in them?
  • Are they striving for similar life goals?
  • What are the foods they eat? And do you eat the same?
  • How do they treat their parents and loved ones?
  • Do they support your business or personal endeavors?

How much time and money do you invest in relationships?

This may include going to networking events, charity events, and workshops to make new connections and grow your circle of influence.

Finally, how is your relationship with your significant other (if you have one)?

  • Are you growing together or are you serving a life sentence?
  • Can you comfortably express your feelings without fear of retaliation?
  • Does this person lift you up or put you down?

Getting the best out of your relationships can bring the best out of you.

Improve Your Food

One of the hardest habits to break is the food choices we make. It’s often when health is severely compromised that drastic changes are made.

Wealthy persons understand health is wealth and health can be fixed with what we put in.

The best way to improve your food intake is to find one thing to remove from your diet. Track one habit daily, then move onto something else.

There are hundreds of food and diet crazes out there like Keto, Paleo, etc. The best way to improve your diet without stress is to “eat the rainbow.” Fill your plate up with plant-based food that’s red, orange, yellow, green, blue, or purple.

Improve Your Sex

Repeat after me.

Sex is more important than money.

Canadian university study not only revealed that more money did not equal more sex, but sex weighed higher on overall happiness than money. Additionally, excess sex and money had diminishing returns on happiness.

The goal is to find your sweet spot (any pun you could think about was intended). Figure out what works for you and speak with your shag-nificant other(s). Time to get it in!

Ready to change your life?

It’s clear improving your basic needs to better than average can significantly change your life.

In fact, you won’t be hard-pressed to find studies online backing up the claim that happiness actually decreases as wealth increases.

Trust me, I’ll cry on a bed of millions than be broke any day. But at the same time, it will be deeply important to make sure these basics are awesome before I earn another.

If you really want to improve your happiness and life, take the one area that needs the most attention and putting your resources into it.

Try it for the next 3-4 months. Then move onto the next one. You may not get Ray Dalio money out of it, but you’ll surely rival his happiness.

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Crush Your Goals In The Next 120 Days with these 5 Tips

We’re four months already into 2019. And despite the progress I’ve made, I would appreciate a do-over. When you take stock of each stage of the year and compare where you’re at to your goals, you think you’ll crush your goals but you can always find room for improvement.

But a do-over is not the answer. True success is taking the lessons learned and applying them wholeheartedly to the rest of the year. You’d be surprised how far 120 days of improved focus will get you.

What do you have lined up for the months May-August?

Every moment is a moment to do better. If you’re not seeing progress with the goals you set for 2019, try implementing these five habits/tips to make part 2 of 2019 your best ever:

1. Get hungry

“For me life is continuously being hungry. The meaning of life is not simply to exist, to survive but to move ahead, to go up, to achieve, to conquer.” Arnold Schwarzenegger

Any goal you have needs to be powered by unstoppable hunger. It’s what will keep you on track. You’ve set goals because you want to take your wealth/health/life to the next level.

To go to the next level will need you to be in attack mode.

That lack of offense could be the reason you’re still stuck. Which brings the questions:

How important is this goal to you? Is it something I need to pursue now?

If you’re not hungry about the project, business idea or goal, you should throw it out. Which brings up the second tip:

2. Pursuing Less

Chances are at the start of the year, you had a laundry list of goals. Trying to get everything done may not be the best use of your time or energy.

It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential. –Bruce Lee

Getting going may mean removing the goals that may make you feel good when you achieve them, but don’t move the needle forward. Doing less does not make you a failure, it frees up your time to hunt the big fish.

In Tools of Titans, these few lines, taken from Newt Gingrich, keeps Tim Ferris focused on what’s important:

“A lion is fully capable of capturing, killing, and eating a field mouse. But it turns out that the energy required to do so exceeds the caloric content of the mouse itself. So a lion that spent its day hunting and eating field mice would slowly starve to death. A lion can’t live on field mice. A lion needs antelope. Antelope are big animals. They take more speed and strength to capture and kill, and once killed, they provide a feast for the lion and her pride. … So ask yourself at the end of the day, ‘Did I spend today chasing mice or hunting antelope?’”

Cross out all the goals that won’t improve your life at least 10X. And work on 1–2 exclusively over the next 120 days.

3. Exercising Your Creativity

Spend more time coming up with creative ways to achieve your goals. Set aside time for thinking in a quiet space, coming up with as many ideas as possible to solve any sticking points in gaining success.

We don’t place enough value on thinking time. An extended moment where we can disconnect, sit somewhere with a pen and paper, and let our imagination go wild.

When you come up with creative ideas, start pursuing those ideas with the hunger we covered before. Then drop what doesn’t work and do more of what does.

4. Dancing outside your comfort zone

To make progress, you need to do something that really scares you.

  • If getting on video makes you squeamish, you should give it a shot.
  • Doing that cold call could be the $10,000 sale you envisioned.
  • Taking those dance classes you said you would at the start of the year.
  • Applying for that gig you have experience little for.

Write down the 10 craziest things you could do over the next four months to crush your goals and start with the scariest thing first. When you do the scariest first, the rest seem like child’s play.

5. Get rapid help

If you have not made any progress in 2019, the answer could be as simple as this: You’re trying to do it on your own.

Going solo is a recipe for frustration and disaster.

Yes, the goal is yours.

And yes, you need to see it through. But that does not mean you should be figuring out what to do on your own. Moreso, that does not mean you need to lock yourself away until it’s done. To fix this requires rapid help:

  • Find a mentor or coach to help identify gaps and strengthen your game plan. If you can’t afford one, see what you can exchange for that person’s time.
  • Get involved in a group or mastermind to challenge your ideas, make new connections, and point you to tools and people to make it happen faster.
  • There’s no time to figure out things. You shouldn’t be spending time learning to build a website, figuring out a meal plan, or editing your book. You don’t need to own a business to hire someone. Outsource what you can to people who love to do it.

If you’ve gone through January to April without getting help for your goals, it’s one of the main reasons you’ve seen no progress.

Ready to crush your goals?

It’s time to crush your goals for Part 2 of the year. Changing things up is the only way to make serious progress. Get hungry on one or two goals and get the help you need to execute. Then you’ll be sitting pretty to finish out the year strong!

Get your side hustle on

Even the Bible says you need a side hustle.

Long before Gary Vee or Tai Lopez advocated starting a side hustle. Or before the Side Hustle Show podcast, a little verse in the bible had the right idea.

I’m no real reader of the bible admittedly but when I came across these few lines, it stopped me in my tracks:

In the morning sow thy seed, and in the evening withhold not thine hand: for thou knowest not whether shall prosper, either this or that, or whether they both shall bealike good. — Ecclesiastes 11:6

The verse says you should have a primary job or function. It may be in your field of choice, or not. But when work is over, you should be pursuing something else. Your passion, a project, or side hustle.

The first reason is obvious. You’re not sure which will take off. Your side hustle could eclipse your job. Or your job could really blossom into the career of your dreams. A side hustle can also help you improve the basics in your life.

The second reason is practical. At some point, you may need to make a career change. Or suddenly, you could lose your job. So having all your eggs in one basket sounds like a bad idea…

Within the covers of the Bible are the answers for all the problems men face. — Ronald Raegan

A financial advantage

It’s reported that New England tight end Rob Gronkowski retired this year without spending any of his football salaries. Despite his reputation for partying, he’s financially focused, only spending what he needs from his other job — endorsements.

You may not pocket multimillions but the concept is the same. A few hundred dollars a month can give you a significant wealth building advantage. And money tends to follow the money. If you have a side hustle nest egg, you’ll be able to act on opportunities to increase your wealth.

Starting Your Side Hustle

To start a side hustle, you need four important things:

  1. A skill or passion
  2. People who need that skill
  3. An offer
  4. Commitment ( this is the “evening withhold not thine hand” part)

Everything else you can refine as you go.

Review your skills and passions

If you have to do a second hustle, make it something you actually like doing. If you’re not sure what your passion is, answer the simple questions on this sheet. Otherwise, take a skill that comes relatively easy for you. Who knows, it may end up being your day job on a consulting or freelance scale. Once you have your skill, it’s time to find the people looking for you to help them.

Research the market

Where are your potential customers hanging out?

LinkedIn? Facebook? Networking events or a Chamber of Commerce?

Take some time to find an area — online or physical — where you can pitch your services.

Create an MVP or MVS

Put together a Minimum Viable Product or Minimum Viable Service. The more time you spend tweaking and waiting for the perfect moment, you won’t start.

For example, if you’ve decided you’re great at cleaning and you want to do a cleaning service, you don’t need fancy equipment, a website or business card. A broom, mop, and vacuum are more than enough.

Stick to it

Millions of persons envision themselves starting a side hustle or business. However, a few actually execute their vision. It’s so easy to spend time gaming, watching TV or scrolling Instagram instead of doing your side hustle.

The dream is free. The hustle is sold separately.” — Unknown

Staying committed is key. You’re going to have to split time and often your career can be physically and emotionally draining. But even if you can muster a couple of hours a day, regardless of how you feel, you’ll be miles ahead than if you wait for the energy and motivation to hit.

Start your Side Hustle today

A side hustle can really improve your life, and it’s good karma too. As the bible verse says, you’re not sure which will take off but you’re guaranteed at least one will. More importantly, working on different things can help you unleash your true passion and put you on the path of an amazing life.


The first step if you’re not sure how to change your life

I don’t know what to do with my life

Do you feel the same way?

It’s the running theme with the people I’ve coached.

With some of my closest friends.

Or on the internet in general.

We’re really not sure what to do with our lives.

And frankly, that sucks.

To be dreamless, goalless, or mission-less is one of the most soul-crushing feelings a human can experience.

We want to be happy. To find that raison d’etre. To live like we’re dying. And we want to through our work. And eventually, get paid for it too.

So where do we start? And how do we take control?

Well, start by leaning wholeheartedly into the thing you love.

Leaning into your love

For example, one of my best friends had a love for music since we were teenagers. He couldn’t sing/rap for shit but his passion was undeniable.

He learned to create beats on his own. Then went to university to study audio engineering.

But straight out of school, he found the industry hard to penetrate, so he took on a 9–5, still dabbling in music on the side.

After spending years doing a copywriting job he realized how much the job was sapping away energy from his mission. His purpose.

He knew to take his life to the next level, he had to lean into his love.

So he left the job behind to throw all of his passion into his purpose.

He’s been able to feed himself and his family ever since. And have a great time doing it.

The first step?: Follow the trail

Well, Marvin. I don’t know what I love. I’m interested in a lot of things but I’m not sure what ‘my thing’ is.

Some of us aren’t able to find our passion as early as my friend.

Or so we think.

Our passions are there. Ingrained into us from an early age. But at some point in our lives, we reject it.

  • Maybe our parents told us about the importance of ‘getting a real job’.
  • Or kids (no excuse), a mortgage, or health issues (legit excuse) got in the way and we put our dreams on the back burner.
  • Or maybe we’ve chased the money instead of our passion/dream, which works at first, but then sucks away at your soul.

If we’re completely honest with ourselves, every day we invest some energy into what our true passions are. The answers are within us, around us, but we think it’s childish or trivial.

But follow the trail:

  • What would you cry about if your parents took it away as a child?
  • What would a younger you be ashamed that you’re not doing right now?
  • How do you spend your Saturday mornings or days off?
  • When you want some ‘me time’, what do you spend the time doing?
  • Check your browser history for the last 6 months. What blogs or YouTube videos do you spend hours on?
  • Are you on Pinterest? What boards do you follow? If you had to delete all but one, what can’t you absolutely do without?

You may be saying that’s cute an all, but I can’t make a living watching anime.

Have you tried?

Maybe the thing holding you back is you expect some sort of immediate return on your investment. Something tangible, like cash.

And frankly, that’s sad.

As a kid, you wouldn’t ask to be paid to play, would you?

So just play, without expecting an end result or exchange. Try doing something you love, for you.

And if you keep at it and let your passion shine, people can’t help but be attracted to you and eventually pay you for it.

Now it’s time to act

So if you find yourself questioning your purpose or unsure what do with your life, follow the trail.

The answer is in front of you. It’s within you. Nobody else can tell you what you already know deep down inside.

All you have to do is lean into it.